Love: the theory and the practice


Love: the theory and the practice

Watch people at airports you said, to understand attachment: the tears, the hugs, the love.

You included us all: the nervous teenager, the would-be psychiatrist, the lonely middle-aged woman. You encouraged us, challenged us. I learnt that conformity is hugely overrated; that normality is an entirely subjective concept; that you preferred Vygotsky to Piaget, mountains to beaches; that you loved your husband dearly.

And I discovered first-hand that feelings are feelings, however predictable the transference of years of suppressed affection to my Psychology tutor. So, just as Freud valued insight over happiness, my mind expanded as my heart still aches.

M J Lewis ©2016

Happy January to all who visit and a huge thank you to Rochelle as another year of a Friday Fiction begins. Anyone else returned to work after the break to find they’re already playing catch-up by the end of week one? Ah, so not just teachers then (but that’s a true story for another time). Thanks also to Melanie Greenwood for the photo.

My one and only resolution for 2016 so far is to learn and write a different form of poetry each month; January has been declared Miranda’s sonnet month. Here’s a really inspiring and useful site I’ve enjoyed visiting. Not as serious as it sounds by the way – my first sonnet is about a guinea pig and begins:

He raises noble snout and sniffs the air


19 thoughts on “Love: the theory and the practice

  1. I guess you see the full range of human emotion at airports, and people from all different cultures too.
    I like your last line. Expanding the mind is all well and good, but the heart needs attention too!

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    • That’s very sad about your father. I did have the chance to say goodbye to my father, so oddly I said see you soon because goodbye in the end felt too final.
      Thanks for your lovely comments.


    • I just watched that scene – I wonder if my Psychology tutor saw it too! Whoever thought of it first, it is a great way to study people and it makes a great opening scene.
      Yes, practice as well as theory to be a well-rounded person…


    • Studying others leads back to ourselves – exactly the circle I wanted to take this story in! (And whilst I didn’t personally fall in love with my tutor, studying psychology as an adult really was a life-changing experience.)
      The sonnet is a work in progress – just need to interview a few more guinea pigs. (Or you can just squeak in iambic pentameter when you run out of ideas!) 🙂

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      • I wouldn’t recognize a iambic pentameter if you hit me over the head with one. And I must have been in love with every good teacher I had, at least a little.

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