Love: the theory and the practice
Watch people at airports you said, to understand attachment: the tears, the hugs, the love.
You included us all: the nervous teenager, the would-be psychiatrist, the lonely middle-aged woman. You encouraged us, challenged us. I learnt that conformity is hugely overrated; that normality is an entirely subjective concept; that you preferred Vygotsky to Piaget, mountains to beaches; that you loved your husband dearly.
And I discovered first-hand that feelings are feelings, however predictable the transference of years of suppressed affection to my Psychology tutor. So, just as Freud valued insight over happiness, my mind expanded as my heart still aches.
M J Lewis ©2016
Happy January to all who visit and a huge thank you to Rochelle as another year of a Friday Fiction begins. Anyone else returned to work after the break to find they’re already playing catch-up by the end of week one? Ah, so not just teachers then (but that’s a true story for another time). Thanks also to Melanie Greenwood for the photo.
My one and only resolution for 2016 so far is to learn and write a different form of poetry each month; January has been declared Miranda’s sonnet month. Here’s a really inspiring and useful site I’ve enjoyed visiting. Not as serious as it sounds by the way – my first sonnet is about a guinea pig and begins:
He raises noble snout and sniffs the air
Miranda
I do watch people in airports, but it’s primarily to gather characters for future stories. There are some strange birds in that nest.
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Yes, they’re good places to people watch. My psychology tutor really did suggest they are great places to understand attachment – the rest of my story is fiction (more or less).
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I guess you see the full range of human emotion at airports, and people from all different cultures too.
I like your last line. Expanding the mind is all well and good, but the heart needs attention too!
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I once saw some Japanese women at Gatwick who didn’t touch at all when they met up but smiled fit to burst. It is fascinating.
Thanks for the visit.
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I liked everything about this piece. Watching at airports is such an excellent suggestion from a psychology professor. I saw my father for the last time at an airport…
Well done.
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That’s very sad about your father. I did have the chance to say goodbye to my father, so oddly I said see you soon because goodbye in the end felt too final.
Thanks for your lovely comments.
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I really liked this story.. You might have all those fine theories but in the end it’s just feelings.. Your story reminds me of the opening scene of “Love Actually”
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I just watched that scene – I wonder if my Psychology tutor saw it too! Whoever thought of it first, it is a great way to study people and it makes a great opening scene.
Yes, practice as well as theory to be a well-rounded person…
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Wonderful story. Studying others usually leads back to ourselves. And I love the first line of that sonnet.
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Studying others leads back to ourselves – exactly the circle I wanted to take this story in! (And whilst I didn’t personally fall in love with my tutor, studying psychology as an adult really was a life-changing experience.)
The sonnet is a work in progress – just need to interview a few more guinea pigs. (Or you can just squeak in iambic pentameter when you run out of ideas!) 🙂
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I wouldn’t recognize a iambic pentameter if you hit me over the head with one. And I must have been in love with every good teacher I had, at least a little.
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This is so clever. I just love how you shift between the academic and the emotional. Very good.
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Thanks Margaret. I sometimes worry about being too clever – that what’s in my head and obvious to me isn’t communicated. You got it exactly!
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I travel a lot, MJ, and I have always found airports so telling, so powerful. You have really written a beautiful story of the many human depths that can be found there.
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Thank you Dawn.
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I really, really like this.
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Thanks! 🙂
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People watching is the best way to pass the time in an airport. Well told, you captured what it’s like.
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Academia is fine, but life is also for living. An airport is a good place to study human nature. Russell has the right idea. Well done, M.J. — Suzanne
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